It touches so many of us
Traumas may vary but I’ve found that the effects often don’t. I have also come to find that we all tend to search for the same things in our darkest moments and I take comfort in that.
It makes for quite the emotional roller coaster ride as I learn to navigate and manage PTSD.
As I child, it was deep-seated into me not to trust my family or my feelings. I lived my childhood in fear of what might happen next. I grew up believing it was my fault. Maybe if I had just been a better kid, or if I had just been good enough. I realized early on I had little control over what was happening and so, I disconnected. That is what I could control.
I grew up believing the way I was treated and the way I felt was what I deserved; it was all I had ever known, why would I think any differently?
It is hard work undoing these hardwired negative thought processes. They are entrenched in my subconscious responses and reactions both physical and emotional.
Positive Statements Matter
Not just the general, happy-go-lucky feel good stuff though, I am talking about intentional positive statements. The things we say to help bring us back into the present.
How we talk to ourselves matters.
For the average person, this stuff will seem obvious but for some of us, well sometimes we need a very clear and simple reminder – in bold.
Here are 14 positive affirmations that I use when I’m having a hard time trudging through the dark and painful chaos of my past.
#1 I am Safe
#2 “It is not my fault”
#3 “I am in control of my thoughts, my words, and my life”
#4 “I deserve to receive all the love and support I need”
#5 I am Enough
#6 “My courage is stronger than my fear”
#7 “I am in control”
#8 “I trust my ability to make the right decisions for me”
#9 I am Worthy of Respect
#10 “I am becoming a better version of myself one day at a time”
#11 “I have the ability to create the life I desire”
#12 “I do not allow my past to control my future”
#13 I Radiate Courage
And one of the most important…
#14 “I am not alone”
Pain can be silencing, shame can be isolating – but it isn’t our shame. We all deserve to heal.
I hope that at least a couple of this affirmations helped you just now. I hope some of them stick and help you on days when things get tough.
If nothing else – please know you are not alone.
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