Traumas may vary but I’ve found that the effects often don’t.
For the last 8 months, I have been facing my childhood of sexual abuse head on, which has not been an easy feat: I often transverse between confidence and terrified emotional chaos.
As I child, it was deep-seated into me not to trust my family or my feelings. I lived my childhood in fear of what might happen next. I grew up believing it was my fault; if I had just been a better kid, or if I had just been good enough. I realized early on I had little control over what was happening and so, I disconnected. That is what I could control. I grew up believing the way I was treated and the way I felt was what I deserved; it was all I had ever known, why would I think any differently?
It is hard work undoing these hardwired negative thought processes. They are entrenched in my subconscious responses and reactions both physical and emotional.
Positive statements matter. Not just the general, happy-go-lucky feel good stuff though, I am talking about specific positive statements. How I talk to myself matters.
For the average person, this stuff will seem obvious but for me, well sometimes I need a very clear and simple reminder – in bold.
Here are 14 positive affirmations that I use when I’m having a hard time slogging through the dark and painful chaos of my past.
“It is not my fault”
“I am in control of my thoughts, my words, and my life”
“I deserve to receive all the love and support I need”
“My courage is stronger than my fear”
“I am in control”
“I trust my ability to make the right decisions for me”
“I am becoming a better version of myself one day at a time”
“I have the ability to create the life I desire”
“I do not allow my past to control my future”
And one of the most important…
“I am not alone”
Pain can be silencing, shame can be isolating – but it isn’t my shame. I deserve to heal.
So do you!
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