I can’t believe it has been a month since I sat down and write my monthly goals for May. So much has changed since then.
Let’s take a quick look at how I did on my goals from last month and then I will share with you my new goals for the next 30 days.
Why Goals are Important
I said in my first Monthly Goals write-up that if it isn’t written down, it didn’t happen. Goals have been a part of my therapy and healing for over three years; they encourage me to laser focus on things that I need or want to work on, and they hold me accountable to my plans.
They help me outline the actions I can take to achieve what I want in life and I like that.
Goals are so important when it comes to trauma healing. Survivors wade through so many layers; lines blur, and it’s easy to become overwhelmed. Goals give us our control back, they lift us up and help us piece together our confidence one achievement at a time.
Last Month’s Goals
In May I laid out the following goals for myself:
- Journal 3 times a week
- Move my body
- Be more consistent with my writing
- Finish my trauma workbook
- Build up my website
So, how did I do?
Well – I didn’t journal privately at all like I wanted. I moved my body but only about a quarter of the time I had hoped. I write more, but I don’t know if I would call it consistent. I didn’t even touch my trauma book. My website though – it got the majority of my time this last month and I’m not upset about that.
I had set a silent goal of 25 new followers and I managed to get 19. I am very happy with that too. Mostly because I am not trying to simply produce traffic. When I see one person come to my site and read through half my writing, that makes my heart swell. That’s when I know my pain and my words gave someone else who is hurting what they needed in their moment of struggle.
I Didn’t Fail
When I looked back on these goals, I realize that I haven’t paid much attention to them at all. So many things have happened in the last few weeks that it all feels like a life-time ago.
It is hard to look at what I wanted to accomplish vs. what I did accomplish and not feel like I only checked off a couple boxes. But the things I did achieve deserve attention, and while I heal celebrating the little things is just as important as trying again.
Keeping a private journal has always been a struggle, probably because I treat this site as my journal so most days I’m spent after writing here. No excuses on the trauma workbook – I didn’t touch it.
But I did move my body, not as much as I wanted – but more nonetheless. My writing didn’t follow the consistent schedule I had pictured in my mind, but I did write regularly and I am still working on my schedule. Finally, I made strides on the backside building of my site with future plans in mind.
I didn’t fail.
Goals for June
With last month in mind, here are the things I want to focus on in June:
This is again on my list of goals. My goal is to find a writing schedule for myself and this site that allows me to take days of from writing while still having a consistent publishing schedule. That will take a little bit more work on my part regarding time management vs. ill-timed procrastination.
I finished the first rough draft of my first book but due to recent events it has sat on the shelf for a week or two. I have a soft release date in mind and my goal is to make that release date and accomplish what feels like a life-long goal; to be published.
Getting Comfy in Front of the Camera
I may tell all but I still find comfort in the protective wall of my words.
I want to embrace vulnerability a little bit more and grown my confidence as I share. I want to do that in person as well as through my writing – so start watching for small video clips … maybe.
Move my Body
So important, still a goal. The hubby and I have been talking about ways we can motivate each other. We aren’t getting any younger and we feel the affects of stress on our bodies. Wish me luck!
Acceptance of my New Path
The events of the last few weeks have pushed me onto an absolute path. I can’t ignore it. It is a path that I have wanted to venture for years but have been fearful of. Fearful of failure, of what others will think of me, and I think fearful of success as well. It is hard to succeed when my confidence is so delicate.
For the next 30 days I plan to work hard on believing in myself and being aware of my own responsibility to both my happiness and success.
So, what are some of your goals for the month of June?
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