In Other People’s Words: Coco Chanel

Sometimes other people say it better:

“Don’t spend time beating on a wall, hoping to transform it into a door. ”

Coco Chanel

Untreated trauma turns the majority of us into people pleasers. It hinders our abilities to set and maintain proper boundaries, and it causes us to constantly think about our inadequacies rather than everything we have to offer.

I counter negative thoughts and tendencies like these at least once a day as I work to rewire my responses and my thought processes.

I selected this quote because for me it symbolizes a pivotal moment in trauma healing. This is where we all begin to understand and realize our own personal worth, we begin to see what boundaries are and how they benefit us, and we remember the positive things we bring to the table.

Stop beating on that wall my friends, whether it is a person, a project, or yourself. Accept the wall is there and start looking for the door.

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