Thoughts Over Coffee ☕️via @survivingchildhoodtrauma
A New Memory
Over the summer during one of my reiki sessions, a new memory surfaced and it landed hard. I kept silent all day about it, and it took me a while to figure out what I wanted to do with this memory.
The next morning, literally as the sun was rising, I had an amazing friend open up space and let me place the heaviness of this new memory down for help.
As I shared with her this memory – a memory that I have always had but remembered differently – I suddenly understood why.
I was 16 that summer. The trial/suicide with my grandfather was so recent in my mind having happened just months prior. I was still settling into my third guardianship change and the woman I was living with would continue the emotional abuse and neglect I had experienced to that point for the next 18 months before kicking me out at 17.
I am Not to Blame
I took responsibility for what happened to me that summer back in the 90s.
I have always believed that I must have wanted it. Now I remember just how much I didn’t want it and how trapped and afraid I felt the whole time.
As I work through how to move forward with this new piece of my healing puzzle I realize how internalized all of my childhood trauma is.
It is the crux for every challenging part of my healing journey.
Everything comes back to “it’s me”. I am the unworthy one, the not good enough one, the unlovable one, I am the one to blame. It is such a deeply held belief in my body. As a child I internalized every part of my abuse as a negative reflection of myself, as something I deserved.
I still struggle with this sometimes.
As I heal, I continue to untangle this negative belief and release the shame I have held for so long.
It was never my fault. It was never your fault. 🔥
On goes the journey 💪🏻❤️🩹
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