Thoughts Over Coffee with Shanon from Surviving Childhood Trauma ☕ Join me for a cup of coffee and some real talk about complex PTSD and trauma healing and recovery.
There are many posts on social media that say “a sense of urgency is a trauma response” like Urgency in survival mode can be explained in such a simple sentence … but it is not so simple.
I find myself ready to be done with the stress and discomfort of my recent move which has deepened my understanding of why I respond to discomfort with a sense of urgency.
It has been a month since I packed my home and began on this new journey after 12 years of building safety and security there. It is the longest I have lived somewhere in my entire life and this move shook me to my very core. I have been grieving deeply.
Nothing Is Familiar
Nothing in my life feels familiar: my morning routine is within the flow of a new home, the views from my windows are unfamiliar and lack the privacy I once had, the sounds still startle me into silent hypervigilance as I listen to try and figure out what I am hearing. My new home has character, things that are different and new – but all I see are flaws.
In moving through all of this, I find myself with less mental and emotional space for deeper focused healing (or sharing) as all my energy is going into coping. Right now I am living my healing work every day waiting for my home to feel like home and unfamiliarity to finally settle into comfort.
But I am not fully settling in, not yet, not as quickly as I would like.
How Urgency Protects
I got to thinking about the sense of urgency that I feel.
I have a deep need for everything uncomfortable and unfamiliar to stop feeling this way so that I can feel safe and secure again. I want so badly to feel like I did just two months ago when I was waking up at my previous home.
But that sense of safety takes patience and work to cultivate. I just wish it would hurry up already.
I don’t like feeling emotionally uncomfortable; emotions can feel so overwhelming and unpredictable.
This is why I feel a deep sense of urgency. It is born from my survival mode, it is a protector trying to manage this new terrain and get me back to how I used to feel: more focused, more safe, more in control of myself and my surroundings.
Urgency is about as uncomfortable as the emotions it is trying to rush me through.
I am doing my best to take it slow.
On goes the journey 💪🏻❤️🩹
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Hi, I am Shanon and I am a trauma informed, trained, and Certified Peer Support Specialist in the state of Wisconsin. I am also a survivor with years committed to my own trauma healing after being diagnosed with (C) PTSD due to childhood abuse. Additionally, I have a professional and personal history of community facilitation and peer work.
I specialize in helping survivors like you make connections between real time experiences and past trauma wounds, identify and communicate boundaries, create self-care plans that work, navigate big emotions and trauma responses, reparent your inner child, and embody your own self-worth through the healing process with confidence and personal empowerment.
These support groups and 1:1 peer support sessions should not replace professional therapy; they will however provide additional support and information.