Thoughts Are Not Facts

Thoughts Over Coffee with Shanon from Surviving Childhood Trauma ☕️ Join me for a cup of coffee and some real talk about complex PTSD and trauma healing and recovery.

When coming out of freeze mode I always find myself extremely reflective of the coping skills I engaged as I moved through my process. The following are my reflections from a freeze mode I experiences last year:

January 2022: Assuming Blame

I realized fully yesterday how deeply I immediately blamed myself for recent events that were completely out of my control. It is amazing how my mind was able to mold the events so I could hold myself accountable. This is what powerlessness does to me when I don’t catch the trigger.

When triggered, I believe so easily and so deeply that I am the problem.

My aunt said to me that my thoughts are not facts: a concept I am reminded of often by my therapist. 

We talked about the freedom that this idea gives us when we do manage negative self-talk, but we gave ample credit to the fact that as childhood abuse survivors, it isn’t so easy as “knowing” that thoughts are not facts.

It’s a constant internal practice.

Part of the capital C in Complex PTSD is that the survivor has a deeply ingrained negative belief system.

Learning to Redirect My Thoughts

Redirecting my negative thoughts of Self has been a part of my goals in therapy since the day I began therapy. I have definitely gotten better at it, but it has always been a part of the process, a part of my journey. 

The fact that this is an ongoing process with myself landed differently when I spoke with my aunt. My awareness of just how often I do this, how normal a part of my daily choice to heal it is, leveled up. And awareness is the first step.

Be gentle with yourself, learning to catch and redirect negative thoughts of self takes time and practice; and even then it can still be challenging on occasion.  

Please know you are amazing and you are worthy! ✨

One goes the journey 💪🏻❤️‍🩹🔥


Looking for Ways to Connect With Other Survivors and/or Receive Support as You Heal?

Survivor’s Circle Peer Support Groups might be just what you need. 

These small groups meet on alternating days of the week via Zoom. In these groups, survivors connect, share, and support each other through the ebbs and flows of healing. Attend a session and experience the magical healing that happens when survivors connect and support each other through shit only we can understand.

You can also book individual 1:1 peer support sessions with Shanon for private support in a closed space. You deserve support as you heal, and I am here to help. You don’t have to heal alone.

On the Journey Peer Support Monthly Package

As a part of this monthly support program you will gain access to all Survivor’s Circle Peer Support group support sessions every month as well as individual 1:1 peer support sessions with Shanon each month. 

Hi, I am Shanon

I am a trauma informed, trained, and Certified Peer Support Specialist in the state of Wisconsin. I am also a survivor with years committed to my own trauma healing after being diagnosed with (C) PTSD due to childhood abuse. Additionally, I have a professional and personal history of community facilitation and peer work.

I specialize in helping survivors like you make connections between real time experiences and past trauma wounds, identify and communicate boundaries, create self-care plans that work, navigate big emotions and trauma responses, reparent your inner child, and embody your own self-worth through the healing process with confidence and personal empowerment.

These support groups and 1:1 peer support sessions should not replace professional therapy; they will however provide additional support and information.

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