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  1. This is such a beautiful and empowering self reflection. I wish you continued healing strength this fall. πŸ’—

  2. Thank you so much…so affirming. Just getting started after 48 years of suppressed memories. EMDR brought out the WHOLE ugly truth. So difficult. The PTSD has been a struggle for 48 years…so many questions answered now. Thank you..I feel like I’m not alone.

  3. You are giving yourself an incredible gift here. πŸ’• I agree that forgiveness is not necessary in healing from trauma, but it is so important to find our own way to let go of the burden that was placed upon us – a burden that does not belong to us. I wish you continued healing strength on your journey. πŸ’•πŸ’•

  4. Wow, this is a deep post, and it is brutally honest. I have seen a lot of people who have gone through something similar to this, and I know for a fact that it is not easy. Forgiveness is something that brings release with it. Forgiveness is easier when we have healed from the pain. I find that healing comes from God.

    The Bible says in Psalm 147:3
    “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds”.

    The Bible says in Malachi 4:2
    “But for you who fear my name, the sun of righteousness shall rise with healing in its wings. You shall go out leaping like calves from the stall”.

    God says in Jeremiah 29:11
    “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, β€œplans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future”.

    Healing can be a tough thing to do on your own, so sister, I would advise that you give this issue to God in prayer. Tell him to help you, tell him to heal you, and tell him to fight for you. God is still on the throne, but we have the freewill to choose him. God can help. His mercies are great.

    If you want more information on how to connect with God, I have a post on it here:

    https://christcenteredruminations.wordpress.com/2018/08/29/how-to-build-a-relationship-with-god/Β 

    You can check out the blog post above. If the information is too overwhelming for you, then you can start slow and work your way up gradually. If you want to stay updated and you want more posts from me, you can follow my blog. I post about God, faith and Christian Spirituality.

    If you ever need to talk, then send me a message on the “Contact” section of my page.

    May God’s blessing be with you, Amen. πŸ™‚

  5. I’m another one who deals with overwhelming events or emotions by going into freeze mode. I hate to think of how many days I have spent in bed, spacing out, napping or staring at my phone, willing the time (and the pain) to pass. I also notice it more now but still find it hard to summon the energy to overcome the fatigue and exhaustion.

  6. This is a common behavior many of us with CPTSD share. It is annoying and sadly you can’t stop overnight, because it’s something you’ve been doing for so long.
    Thanks for spreading the awareness. You’re doing some amazing work at Instagram, I really like to follow your works.

  7. Every time I have any communication with my older brother, he scares me even more. I’m looking forward to the day I can cut contact for at least a good amount of time. All his emails go to my bin so I don’t usually see them, but the last one said that he doesn’t want to reach this christmas without any communication again πŸ˜†πŸ˜†πŸ˜†. Despite me not wanting any contact. And him seemingly suggesting in the email before that that I was a narcissist 😐 😐 😐 which is the first time narcissism has been mentioned by anyone. I was only communicating briefly out of necessity.

    Anyway, I understand that feeling of instant stress and regret.

  8. One thought as I read through your struggle with the notion of forgiveness. I remember hearing a speaker (I think it was Madeleine L’Engle) state that “forgive and forget” is NOT forgiveness. That true forgiveness accepts that you were wronged. It was a misconception I certainly had, and that moment was eye-opening.

    I’m glad you have support on your journey of healing.

  9. I hear you. I am on a similar journey unpacking a lot of shit from childhood and I am getting to know my coping mechanisms really close, while living with family. Its liberating in a way but the suppressed emotions are not fully integrated too. So I am in some kind of a limbo i guess.

  10. I think I’ve observed my older brother in this state a lot before, as well as a nearby friend I have here who I was recently able to meet up with again. I don’t think I have this mode, though if I had the responsibility of a child to look after, I’m sure my brain might’ve learned it. In fact because I’ve had nobody depending on anything I do for a while, all of that hyper-vigilance just turns inwards and mostly results in OCD, or outward physical expression of stress. I’ve sometimes thought philosophically like this about the potential pros and cons of the situation that I’m in, vs. others.

    Your comment about your daughter’s education was touching, because I feel a similar way about my little brother. He’s at university and I would also never let my struggles somehow impact him negatively with that. Which I have to say, has saved me a few times.

  11. “Reading back four years ago however, I see my progress and that is priceless”

    That is amazing! :). Really gratifying for you, and great that you are able to visibly see the progress in that way.

    I also think back to how my mind state was ‘this time a year ago’ quite often, and it’s definitely true that little bits add up to a lot. πŸ’™

    1. I promised myself in May of this year after I lost my job that I would put as much effort into my trauma work for 1 year as I have into making other people rich my whole life.

      I am so glad I made that decision. For the crap this year has thrown at me – I’ve probably done the biggest personal switch up in my life. ☺

  12. I’ve been there so many times. Hugs πŸ€— keep going. The only way through …. is through. Don’t give up now. Xoxoxo. This is the journey out. All love πŸ’•

  13. I so understand this. I stayed alone for 13 years so I could have my space. I dated plenty but never lived with anybody. That time helped change my life. It’s a struggle now that I’m married but having a partner brings many positives as well. Remember that it ALWAYS doesn’t take this much work. All love to you!

  14. Good for you, to realize why you were feeling triggered and then to stand strong in your own story, your own truth!

  15. Wow. I relate to this so much. I had such fear to write down and share my story. It wasnt safe to do so until I cut out the family member who abused me. Thank you so much for sharing.

  16. That made me cry. I’m so sorry for you. Out of fear that my abuser drilled in me at 4 y.o. when he started raping me, I never told anyone until I was an adult. I know the feeling of wanting so bad for my parents to protect me and rescue me from the devastation and horror. I’m very proud of you for having the strength to come forward and get justice against your abuser. I’m sure as much as it gave you, it drained you and was extremely difficult. You needed your fathers protection, comfort and love and was raped again by his betrayal. I will pray for you that you find forgiveness for yourself so you can rid yourself of guilt for someone who doesn’t deserve it. I never told my dad before he died. I did tell my mom and got the reaction I expected from her… nothing. You didn’t have everything you needed then from your father but it sounds like God saw what you needed and sent an angel into your life. Everything you were missing…HE sent to you. God bless you on your journey to heal.

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