Join me LIVE on Tuesday, October 20th at 7pm CST to discuss parenting after childhood trauma. I will be joined by Michael, a childhood sexual abuse survivor, and parent of two - to discuss the challenges we face as survivors trying to heal and reparent ourselves while raising children we want to spare from the... Continue Reading →
Still waiting.I get that the process can take up to 21 business days - but do we really have to take up all three weeks?Is it this new world I live inthat is affecting how long this process takes?Will they even keep their end of the timeline bargin? Can they?Or maybe it is just my... Continue Reading →
With the ding of my phone,the wait has ended. One month and one week.Granted, communication is between siblings right now,but it is good to hear his voice through the speaker.My very soul feels a small weight released. Healing has no predetermined course.As I accept his journey is his own,I find my own path is becoming... Continue Reading →
I want to make it unequivocally clear that we parents are not at fault for the effects of our trauma, but we are responsible for managing them. Realizations aren’t meant to bring guilt - they are meant to provide guidance.
I'm just wading through the mess of parenting after trauma with a child who struggles with mental injury too.
In normal fashion, every morning - my hubby and I started off at the table together with our coffee and a quick check of our online business analytics. It's the tedious work that we try to spice up with each other's company. During this time we check all of our social media emails, calendars, etc,... Continue Reading →
Is it coincidence,or irony,that during a time when I am intimately working oncoming to terms with the fact that I have been a motherless daughter my whole life,my own child decided to stop talking to me? How to put into words what it feels like carrying the grief that I do,of my own losses, disappointments,... Continue Reading →
Parenting after trauma is difficult. It forces us to really unpack our shit so we don't hurt our kids, or ourselves further.
This morning I started writing about somethingother than this.I had an itinerary for the day,and I was right on schedule.Now, how to describe this feeling?What words best fitthat pivotal moment when things changed today.Triggered?Trauma Response?Flight Mode?Any, or all perhaps.My focus is lost,and exhaustion has set in.It happened so quickly I wasn't able to properly brace myself.It... Continue Reading →
Yesterday it happened again. An encounter with my 22 year old son turned into a situation where the subject started as one thing but by the end of his tirade he had thrown all of his anger, his hurt, and his trauma at me. His sudden attack triggered trauma responses in me and set the... Continue Reading →